Writer's Journal

The Magical Curse of Solitude

Man is a social animal!

As much as I agree that we carry the instincts of animal behavior in our DNA, I still like being alone.

People who love solitude may resonate with other labels like - being introverts, loners, recluses, shy, or self-obsessed. Each label brings with it a set of connotations, but we won't get tied up in them.

The modern man has tamed his animal instincts, or at least he can cover them up too well to fit in society. But there have been tradeoffs in this evolution. From the Renaissance to capitalism, the more we have created, the more consumer-oriented a large population has become.

In a world where convenience means a click of a button and connectivity is outsourced to social media. Solitude has become a common need. It's like shutting down and recharging your brain and body. To safeguard from the speed at which information is coming at you from all directions.

So What is Solitude?

Often confused with being lonely, but it's not the same. Solitude is a conscious and mindful practice of being alone or by yourself as an outcome of choice. People who like solitude find it rewarding and energizing.

Time spent in solitude could look somewhat like - reading, writing, absorbing nature, walking barefoot on the grass, or walking alone on a crowded street. It's being with yourself and your thoughts in the present moment. And trust me, it's addictive!

As Henry David Thoreau once said, "I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude."

Why do we need Solitude?

Renowned psychologist Carl Jung said, "Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you."

A few reasons why modern man - the byproduct of a hyperconnected world might need solitude could be -

1) Technological Advancements

On one hand, social media and digital communication keep us connected all the time. On the other hand, these same mediums can foster feelings of isolation. Ever scrolled through Instagram, seeing everyone's highlight reels, and felt like you were missing out? That’s the paradox of our digital age—connected yet isolated. It's a double-edged sword where you are constantly bombarded with useless information and triggers which create a sense of overwhelm.

2) Urbanization and Modern Lifestyle

Living in an Urban city doesn’t guarantee a meaningful social life. Urbanization often leads to a fast-paced lifestyle where real connections are hard to build. Work culture, especially in highly competitive environments, leads to more isolation. Long hours and the pressure to perform often mean less time for socializing that matters

But there is more -

Greek philosopher Aristotle claimed, "Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god."

Seeking solitude in the modern age can also be a sign of -

I will not call myself a beast or a god. But rightly, a human being trying his best to create a meaningful experience out of his time alive.

While social animals drive this meaningful experience from socializing, not-so-social animals are driven by long and uninterrupted periods of solitude and a small and valuable circle of people.

Spending time with yourself is an art. It's a passage for self-discovery. It's like sitting in front of a mirror and having a coffee with your reflection.

If you can accept yourself for all your flaws and strengths. If you can enjoy your company, you certainly don't need validation from another soul. When you go out into the world to socialize, people see you for who you truly are.

It's funny, but if you think you don't need solitude - try answering this question:

Would you date yourself?

If the answer is 'No', spend more time in solitude until the answer changes to 'Hell yes'.

And if the answer is 'Yes', write in 200 words 'Why would you date yourself?'

You can mail me your answer at - makingitsimplefortheworld@gmail.com
I would be more than happy to share mine with you there.

Best,
The Writer's Journal